can't seem to get anything right
I guess I just don't know exactly what to write. I feel like I must be the worst person in the world right now but I don't know how I could avoid it. I have aparently ruined a 14 year friendship over something that I cannot control. I should be glowing right now but instead I feel like shit because so far everything about my pregnancy has seemed to be an inconvenience to everyone around me. I don't really know how to say thatI am sorry. I refuse to be sorry about my pregnancy though. It has been said that I have been a bad friend so if anyone else feels that way please let me know. I never said that I didn't want to be there for my friends but sometimes you have no choice but to be there in a different way. I still want to be there for my friend but I just can't be there the way she needs me to be. I tried to come up with an alternative but if that isn't going to work then I guess all I can say is sorry, but I tried. 14 years is too long to just throw away. I am certainly not trying to be a bitch and actually I was only thinking about her and her special day. I did not want to be the one who ruined that. I guess I did anyway though.
posted by Reese Family Values @ 10:10 AM
4 Comments:
Don't ever be sorry about your pregnancy. Having a baby is a big day too and something to celebrate. I don't think a 14 year old friendship should be thrown away over misunderstandings or things that cannot be controlled either. If you tried to compromise and tried alternatives and those didn't work,than really that's all you can do. I think you guys both have 2 really great things to celebrate, the big day and those months leading up to it. Sometimes those things can conflict though and can't always be worked out depending on what different people want and are willing to work out. I think if you guys have other issues with each other besides this one incident, that it should be talked about and that's a different story but I really hope you two can work this out. I also hope that both you of have a great big day not only for yourselves, but at each other's big day too.
It sucks that you were unable to buy the dress, I'm sure you are very disappointed that you had to cancel. I'm sure you also realize how much stress "your friend" is going through, planning a wedding is one of the most exciting and STRESSFUL times in your life, and I know you understand why she is so upset, wouldn't you be too if you were her? But like Josie said, you guys need to talk about it because your right, 14 year friendships are hard to just quit. She probably understands where you're coming from, just as you understand where she is coming from, hopefully you'll still be able to enjoy her very special day, as she is looking forward to enjoying your very special day with you. Not that is is any of my business, but you posted about it so I thought I'd comment.
you have to post more than once every couple of months, come on get with the blogging program, :)
Well I think the whole point really isn't that Sam is upset that she had to cancel. I think she's upset that she tried every possible way to come up with a different compromise and alternative and the bride didn't want to budge which is fine because it's her day but then she shouldn't get angry for Sam having to cancel out because she couldn't be the bridesmaid that was expected.Yes, having a wedding is stressful but it's not an excuse to ruin a 14 year friendship and badger someone for being pregnant and trying to come up with a different alternative, telling them it's not going to work, and then getting mad that they can't be in the wedding even when they offer to do something to help in a different way. I'm sure there might be other issues at hand that may need to be talked about that have nothing to do with this and maybe that explains the ignoring and not talking thing to each other. That's a separate issue though.
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